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The Courage to Be Seen
Can I tell you something I’m still learning? Being loved and being known are not the same thing. For a long time, I desperately wanted to be loved. I wanted people to approve of me. To think I was a good person. A good wife. A good mom. A good friend. Someone who had it…
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What If Nothing Needs Fixing Today?
Can I tell you something I’ve been learning? I am really good at finding things to work on. Give me five quiet minutes and I can probably identify something about myself that could use improvement. A conversation I could have handled better. A habit I should change. A relationship I need to examine. A goal…
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The Loneliness of Becoming Different
Can I tell you something I’ve been learning? Sometimes healing is lonelier than I expected it would be. No one really prepares you for that. We talk about the courage it takes to ask for help. The hard work of rebuilding trust. Learning healthy boundaries. Finding freedom from addiction. But we don’t talk much about…
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Learning to Like Myself
Can I tell you something I’ve been learning? For most of my life, I thought my job was to become someone I could finally be proud of. If I could just lose the weight. Stop making mistakes. Get healthier. Become a better wife. A better mom. A better Christian. A better friend. Then maybe… Maybe…
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The Parts of Me I Thought I’d Outgrow
For a while, I thought healing meant becoming a completely different person. I imagined there would come a day when fear stopped knocking. When shame finally packed its bags and left. When people-pleasing disappeared. When insecurity no longer whispered in my ear. When telling the truth became effortless. When vulnerability no longer made my stomach…
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Becoming Rooted
A Letter to the Woman Who Thought She Had Lost Everything I know you’re scared. I know you haven’t been sleeping. I know your mind is racing through every possible outcome and almost all of them end in disaster. I know you’re staring at the wreckage of your life wondering how things got this far.…
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Safe People, Safe Places
One of the hardest lessons recovery has taught me is that not everyone who loves us is safe for us. And not everyone who was once safe will remain safe. I wish that weren’t true. I wish healing automatically strengthened every relationship. I wish growth brought everyone along with us. I wish becoming healthier meant…
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Returning to Yourself
I used to think people woke up one day and decided to completely abandon themselves. That they made some dramatic choice to stop taking care of themselves, stop being honest, stop reaching out, stop doing the things that kept them healthy. But that’s not usually how it happens. At least it never happened that way…
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Holding Grief and Gratitude Together
For much of my life, I believed I had to choose. Either I was grateful… Or I was struggling. Either I was healing… Or I was hurting. Either I was hopeful… Or I was grieving. I didn’t realize there was another option. I didn’t realize that some of the deepest forms of healing come when…
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Resting Without Guilt
I used to wear exhaustion like a badge of honor. The busier I was, the more productive I felt. The more I accomplished, the more valuable I believed I was. The more people needed me, the more secure I felt. I don’t think I realized it at the time, but underneath all of that busyness…
Radiant Redemption 